ilovelemon: this appears to be a universal dilemma: What to eat? How to eat? We're dealing with more than food here - and of course it's obvious that those of us who gain weight have returned to over-eating for a variety of reasons. A biggie is emotional eating or eating for comfort.
Pick a lifestyle and stick with it. You probably won't learn this overnight - none of us have. Fit for life offers a great plan. An all raw diet is fantastic if you can stick with it. There's so much more and since my mind is mush at the moment I'm hoping other's will chime in on what they're doing.
The big thing is dealing with emotions and handling stress without turning to food.